the post that launched the worry i posted this honest thought on facebook, hoping to connect with the other twenty-something women and men out there who might be feeling the same way. hoping to give them hope – even though their newsfeeds are full of engagments, weddings, and babies – that they aren’t alone. that it’s ok. that they have time. and then all my c o u p l e d friends piped in. ūüôā and i love them for it because i know their stories. like my mj who has enough online dating horror stories for her own memoir. or my beanard who has been searching for a long time – he’s the one we all wondered…¬†how the FUCK has no one snatched him up yet? he’s golden. the general sentiment from friends and onlookers went something like this… jasmine. don’t worry boo! it’ll happen when it’s supposed…

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IYQ. Say it. Yes, out loud. That’s how I feel about LA + LB. IYQ. los angeles lessons I learned three things in LA. Don’t things always come in threes? 1. i like fit friends. it was my first full day in LA. my girl alex goes… so you wanna run three miles tonight. you can imagine my face. there would have been zero had she implanted the words¬†lift¬† or¬†hike¬† or¬†netflix ¬†or even¬†bike¬†¬†instead of run three miles. because with those words the piccolo-playing 7th grader in me – you know, the¬†one with one of the slowest mile times, peeked her little head out, shivering with fright.¬†i’m pretty proud of how quickly the 25-yo woman that i am today assured her that the jump-squatting, high-kneeing, kickboxing badass that she is would do just fine. so at 10pm that night (with some reservation), we headed into downtown LA with the bLAcklist to…

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I’m sitting on a couch in LA wanderlusting about a city two hours¬†to the South. San Diego. We had an unforeseen¬†relationship, sd and I. I came into town fully expecting to enjoy it like a friend that you love and leave for your true home.¬†I *didn’t* come into town expecting to find a space of peace and freedom. It’s kind of like when you get knocked over the head with a¬†love that you hadn’t even considered, that you didn’t even know existed. Breathless.   what to do. go to the beach. i know you were expecting that. there’s something spiritual¬†these beaches that i’ve never felt on the east coast. y’all know i’m a sucker for the outer banks, but this was different. maybe it’s just my headspace right now, but this felt more grounding, more in tune with the earth.¬†here are the ones i made it to. Ocean Beach my…

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  It took me an entire year to find Juniper. That’s a LOT of time with my friends¬†Petfinder + AdoptAPet. (Ok, maybe¬†even a little Craigslist.) I could match the name every pitbull with an online profile in the Detroit area. I’d ace any face recognition check imaginable.¬†I was #obsessed. If you’re doing this, then it’s¬†just¬†a good sign that you actually want it bad enough, because you’re overcoming the mom in your head¬†that’s saying, “You don’t have enough time.” or “How will it get exercise?” So, here are my top 5 tips for¬†those first-time adopters out there, you potential #DOGma or #DOGpa. Number One. Have patience. I was too hungry for a dog when I first gave the idea some real thought. I was wishing myself into finding the right dog. I thought I found the right dog in Bandit in March of 2014.¬†I¬†paid the deposit and brought him home from…

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Halloween. 2006. I was a junior in college at good ole’ Indiana University of Pennsylvania. My girls got together to celebrate, but we’re not¬†you’re typical college girls. There were no nurses or schoolgirls or [enter stereotypical skimpy costume here] among us. Our typical Friday night included a Beauty + the Beast followed by an interpretive dance of “Baby” by Justin Bieber and¬†some hot chocolate. Don’t get me wrong – there were a few rare occasions that we could be found dancing on a table, but 90% of the time, we were sober while doing it. No judgment! It’s just who we were/are! Most of these gals were a year ahead of me, so I was a h o t ¬†m e s s¬†this Halloween – crying, red-eyed, and just generally not cute. I already had separation anxiety already creeping in, because I knew these girls wouldn’t be around anymore come…

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